OK...I'm going to say it. How does Charlie Sheen get away with it all? So many people, especially women, forgive him and are just glad to be in his light or back in his good graces.
It takes a certain type of woman to dig a guy like Charlie. More often than not, she's the one who is really into "the bad boy". The challenge and appeal of capturing his attention when he can have " any woman " in the world, let alone the best of the sex goddesses ( i.e porn stars), is like a shout out to the universe. It's like saying, "Look how fantastic and hot I am, so hot, that the on-top-of-the world, Hollywood A-lister Charlie Sheen wants me...ME!"
In addition, the notion that these women can be "the ONE" to finally tame this bad boy and get him to behave is beyond irresistable.
This becomes a confirmation of their own power and importance. So, in return, they are willing to endure and tolerate a whole lot of intolerable behavior in hopes of the big pay off at the end... including money and fame.
In my book, WHAT ABOUT ME? STOP SELFISHNESS FROM RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP I talk about the "martyrs" who in relationships are the ones that do all the giving, all the sacrificing of their own needs to make and keep their partners happy. Their self esteem comes from giving up and giving in to the other person. Often, they base their strength on how well they are able to manage being stoic and suffering in silence.
The so-called 'goddesses' in Charlie's life: Natalie "Natty" Kenly and Rachel Oberlin. The two insist they're not suffering in silence . Oberlin, the 22-year-old former porn star, told the New York Post, "This is the type of lifestyle I've always wanted and I'm thrilled with it." And, 24-year-old Kenly, who worked as a nanny and in a medical marijuana shop, refers to their relationship as an unconventional family and describes herself as a "normal girl from the Valley."
So, everyone is "normal" according to their own definition, but make no mistake these women are outside the "norm" of typical 'girl from the valley' behavior. Threesomes are atypical, and since these women are so into sex, one making it her career choice, you can you only wonder if this attraction stems from something bad in their past.
Charlie is what I call an" ultimate controller". Bottom line: it's all about him. Ultimate Controllers always pair up with martyrs since they are the only ones who will put up with all the you-know-what. That's not to say that Charlie isn't giving. It's just that he most likely gives only what he wants to and it has more to do with what's in it for him.
Doesn't matter, though. His appeal reaches a lot of women far and wide because he is both wild AND wildly successful.
(Proof of his appeal: He opened a Twitter account less than 24 hours ago and has over 850,o00 followers already!)
Dr. Jane Greer, marriage &family therapist, Huffington Post blogger, host of SHRINK WRAP on healthynews@7, healthylife.net