These days, 1 in 5 relationships begins online. That means if you are single and serious about finding love, it’s crazy not to splash around in the sea of online dating fun. I met my husband online, and you can too!
However, it is true that you can waste a lot of time dating duds you meet on the Internet. So to ensure you don’t drown in dating disasters, use these tips to weed out the potential bad boys from the gems truly worth your time.
1. Avoid Dates Who Display Negativity or Insecurity
Pass by profiles that show you up front that the guy isn’t all that confident. Unless you like to rescue men, guys with deeper underlying issues of self worth simply aren’t worth pursuing.
Red Flag Statements:
“It’s so hard to write about yourself.”
“My friends think I’m crazy to find a woman online.”
“I’m the kind of guy women overlook.”
Comments like these suggest a low self esteem and all of the potential minefields that come with dating a guy who doesn’t know what a catch he really is. Plus, if he’s showing you this at first glance, you’ve got to wonder what else you’ll discover later on.
2. Skip Profiles that Dish Dirt about the Opposite Sex
Many singles make the mistake of clearly stating what they aren’t looking for in a partner. This is a problem because it shows you right off the bat how jaded, cynical, or pessimistic they’ve become.
Red Flag Statements:
“No drama queens, please.”
“I’m not into playing head games.”
“Please show me someone who is loyal and upbeat.”
Such statements confirm that these guys are used to attracting bottom of the barrel relationships plagued with emotional issues. If you don’t want to be the next victim of a roller coaster romance, take a pass.
3. Fast Forward Past Hints of Arrogance
Strangely, many guys can’t hide their self-centered ways even while writing 400 words about themselves. If it’s coming out in his writing, beware of what it will feel like coming at you from across the dinner table!
Red Flag Statements:
“ When people ask me why I’m still single, I tell them I haven’t found anyone worthy yet.”
“I’m very picky about the women I date.”
“If you think you can keep up with me, drop me a line.”
These guys aren’t really ready for love between equals. They’re turned on by a woman who will be a challenge. So, if you’re not looking for your love to be served up with a side of emotional unavailability, you’ll do best to pass on this self-important dish.
When you learn to read between the lines of online dating profiles, you can score many more high quality dates in a shorter period of time. That way, the guys you do meet in person, will be the kind of guy worth investing your time, energy, and emotion with!
