Have you ever woke up after an exciting evening with a man in your bed and wondered, “Wow, what have I done? I barely know this guy…I wonder if he’ll call?”
If so, you’re not alone. The Hook Up is so common that everyone has a memorable story. But what if you’re not so much into single night stands, you just got carried away? What if your hope is to turn a one night wonder into a real relationship?
Your best chances of turning a playful romp into a more serious affair happens when you hooked up from the heart. You know the feeling. You meet a cutie and it feels like you’ve known him your whole life. Maybe you’re at a crowded party, but don’t stop talking for hours. Then talking turned to…more than just talking- because it felt so right.
When physical chemistry is ignited by that kind of emotional connection, there’s a chance that your new bond can survive the light of the next morning. In fact, that’s the key to moving ahead: forging more than just a physical spark, before you wind up between the sheets. If he’s still in your bed come day break, that’s a good sign.
Here’s how to capitalize on a budding romance, starting the morning after.
1. Don’t Be Shy
While still in bed, tell him you’re impressed with him for more than just his sexy moves. Share why you think he’s a great guy.
2. Invite him to Breakfast
Over breakfast, see if you can continue the great conversation you had before you hopped into bed the night before. Help him to see you as more than just a one night playdate by highlighting any obvious compatibilities, which might mean you’re a great match.
3. Offer a Plan
Build on one of those compatibilities by suggesting a date next week. If you both love art, suggest meeting up at the museum to share your impressions. Or if you’re both hiking fans, invite him to explore your favorite trail next weekend.
4. Then Let it Go
If you’ve made it through all three steps and he’s still interested, great! Give him space during the week and see what wants to unfold on your next date. But if he balks at any stage of the conversation, just back off and follow his lead. Once you’ve made your interest clear, let him show you if he’s ready to join in for more grown up fun. If he’s not- it’s his loss. And you can get back to searching for the guy who can’t wait to spend his time with you- both in bed and out!
Caveats:
- Hopping into bed right away is never the best idea if you’re hoping for more than one night of fun. Guys tend to see women as two types: those you sleep with right away and those you build a relationship with. You get to decide which one you’ll be! - And to protect your heart, you should never have sex with a guy you barely know, unless you’re ok with the idea of him never calling afterward. That way, whatever happens, you can still feel good about yourself.
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