Moms complain about what their teens wear and who they date. Well, I have news for you, hot mamas, your teens have some things that they'd like to say to you.
Let's say you're a mother of a teen and you're on the dating scene. Your friends are calling you a cougar. A cougar, also known as a mountain lion or mountain cat, has come to be used in our current language to describe a woman who chases after younger men. Cougars (the animals) are known as "generalist predators" in that they will eat any and all of their prey. Maybe you're feeling good about being able to date younger men. Consider, though, how your teen may be feeling about this.
The Mrs. Robinson of the past generation may be called a cougar these days and be referred to as a MILF by your teens' male friends. A MILF does not always behave like a cougar and a cougar is not always called a MILF. What they both have in common though is that they are somehow capturing the attention of younger males.
Perhaps you are wondering what a MILF is. The definition states that a MILF is a sexually attractive "older" woman between the ages of 25 and 50 who is also a mother. The term was popularized in the 1999 film American Pie. Let me just say that it is an acronym for mother I'd like to ______. And the last word is not feed. Nor is it find or figure out.
Let me give you some examples of how daughters feel:
A teenage girl told me that she was on the verge of vomiting when her male friends referred to her mother as a MILF.
Another teen was crying in my office because her mom was dating a guy who was closer in age to her than to her mother. And no, I am not working with Demi Moore's daughters.
Another young woman refuses to let her mother get out of the car when she picks her up from school because of how the high school boys swoon over her mother NOT her.
No, your teen daughters do not want to picture you in that type of entanglement with any men, particularly their same age peers.
Any of these types of hot mamas in your neighborhood?
Barbara Greenberg and Jennifer Powell-Lunder are authors of the hit book, "Teenage as a Second Language: A Parent's Guide to Becoming Bilingual." They've set up an interactive website for parents and teens to listen, learn and discuss hot topics and daily dilemmas. You can find it at www.talkingteenage.com.