5 Relationship Deal breakers
How is your red flag meter? You know, those blaring signs that someone isn’t right for you…those signs so many of us make excuses for or ignore.
Men and women run right through red flags like a bull in Barcelona. We all make mistakes until we find our perfect mate. Women, however, tend to turn a blind eye more than guys do, especially women into so-called boys.
The “whys” and “what-fors” in regard to turning a blind eye to a partner’s bad behavior is probably an issue better left up to a different kind of professional. But I can certainly share with you what flashing red lights you ought not to ignore – ever. Now, in most cases, people spot these problems early on and manage to extricate themselves from the relationship. But for those of you who need a reminder of some real reasons for you and your partner to consciously uncouple, I’ve got five for you:
1. There’s no attraction.
Do NOT let anyone guilt you into trying to build a non-existent attraction for some guy who may look good on paper, but in no way whatsoever makes you even a teeny tiny bit weak-in-the-knees. Give it a couple of dates if you must, but feel free to move on if the sparks don’t start flying soon. You can’t manufacture attraction.
2. He or she is rude to service workers.
There’s an old saying that “you can judge a person’s character by the way they treat people who can’t do anything for them.” And I agree with that. But on the flip side, you can also learn a lot about a person by the way they treat people whose job it is to serve them.
There’s nothing more rude and disrespectful than someone humiliating a waiter or customer service person over some minor mistake or unintentional slight. It’s a power trip that very likely could end up being directed at you at some point.