When I Knew My Teen Was A Woman | Parenting
Yes, I, like so many other mothers, endured many years when I was trying to teach my teen daughter the tricks of the trade-those of being a smart and independent woman and was so used to hearing "oh mom,you told me that already."
Well, recently things have begun to change and I now know that my teenager is a woman. Here's how I know:
1. When she applies suntan lotion- she meticulously applies it to all of the spots that I told her are wrinkle-prone.
2. She not only lets me suggest beauty products for her but she is thrilled when I get them for her.
3. She asks for my opinion on job issues/relationship issues/ and sometimes even on TMI (too much information) issues.
4. She is trying to find the non-existent resemblance between us. I searched for years. Now, she's taken this task over. I think it's a good sign.
5. She seems to like to introduce me to her friends. I hope I don't sound too presumptuous when I infer that she seems proud to have me for a mother.
6. When she takes note of something that she doesn't like in my wardrobe she sensitively mentions it rather than refusing to be seen with me.
7. She asks me to tell her about my life at her age.
8. She tells me how "cute" I am rather than annoying. Definitely a good sign.
9. She doubles over in laughter about the same things that I find funny and she's able to laugh at herself. Very useful skills!
10.She takes her vitamins without any prompting!
So, mothers, keep doing your job and one day that teen will be a woman. Just wait!
Barbara Greenberg and Jennifer Powell-Lunder are authors of the hit book, "Teenage as a Second Language: A Parent's Guide to Becoming Bilingual." They've set up an interactive website for parents and teens to listen, learn and discuss hot topics and daily dilemmas. You can find it at www.talkingteenage.com.