Blended Families: The Difficulties | Parenting
Dear Dr. G.,
I am totally embarrassed about what I am experiencing. I feel like a jealous teenager. I got remarried 4 months ago. I have an 11-year-old son from my first marriage and my new husband has a 15-year-old daughter from his former marriage.
Well, here is what's happening. Whenever my stepdaughter refers to things that she and her parents did together as a family in the past I feel left out and sort of like a second class citizen. When my husband drops his daughter off at her mother's house, I imagine that he and his ex-wife are laughing and reminiscing. The sickest part of all is that sometimes when the daughter is over I start thinking about my husband and his ex being intimate. I know that this is crazy. I also like my stepdaughter and hate that this problem happens when she's around. I guess she reminds me that they were once intimate.
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